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Couples Counselling May Be The Answer You Are Looking For…

Does it feel like no matter what you say, your partner never hears you?

Do you have the same arguments over and over that never get resolved?

Are you at your rope’s end, ready to pack it in?

In today’s busy world, a key problem for couples is the failure to allow time to rebuild your relationship. You and your spouse may be too busy with the kids or too busy working for the family’s bread and butter - or possibly both. Of course, both of these tasks are very important! But when you do get together, there’s often an argument, or that tense silence. You feel like you have lost touch with one another and can’t seem to find your way to connect again.

You likely yearn for a remembered time when you could sit and talk for hours, when you were romantic and intimate. But those days seem long gone. With all the responsibilities you face, perhaps you can’t imagine what it would take to dig your relationship out of this rut.

The separation and divorce rates these days prove that many couples are struggling in their relationships.

The Institute of Marriage and Family Canada indicates that the percentage of marriages in a given year that will end in divorce before their 30th wedding anniversary has increased slightly from 36.1 per cent in 1998 to 37.9 per cent in 2004. It is important to note that the true numbers are probably quite a bit higher because common-law and shorter relationships are not accounted for in the statistics.

You’re not alone if you feel:

• Underappreciated and dissatisfied with your relationship
• Frustrated and overwhelmed with the perpetual cycle of conflict or distance
• Rejected and blamed by your partner
• Tempted to leave the relationship, yet fear what would happen if you did
• Distracted by drugs or alcohol, or fed up with your partner’s abuse of substances

If Any of the Above Sounds Familiar, There is Hope for Your Relationship.

And while the statistics on divorce rates can be discouraging, the good news is that for each additional year of marriage, the risk of divorce decreases. Each year you make your marriage last, the more hope you should have for its success. It’s a no brainer!

No matter what type of relationship you have, you and your partner will have differences. Differences are to be expected. They only become a problem when you are unable to come to terms with your differences and you get stuck in unhealthy ways of relating to one another.

If you and your partner have become stuck in your ways of relating, it may be time to come to terms with the fact that your problems have become too tough to handle on your own. This is where couples counselling can be helpful.

Marriage Therapy Will Show You How to Turn Those Old Arguments Into Opportunities for Greater Appreciation and Personal Satisfaction.

Through the process of couples counselling, you can expect to:

1. Discover greater compassion and nurturing support in your relationship
2. Express mutual honesty, forgiveness, and devotion
3. Uncover opportunities to work together creatively
4. Recover the person your partner was attracted to
5. Have more satisfaction and fulfillment in your relationship
6. Share greater emotional and physical intimacy

When you spend time with each other in marriage therapy, it could be the first taste of quality time you have devoted to each other in years. By addressing the basic need for quality time to rebuild your partnership, you regain the intimacy that you once had.

Like a pair of trees growing side by side in the forest, you each need your own light, water, air, and earth on which you can flourish. When your roots and branches do not smother or compete with one another, you can begin to feel more comfortable to pursue interests of your own and do more for yourself.

Nurturing yourself helps you become more confident, which enhances your relationship. The tense silences or arguments begin to subside and you feel more sustained and understood. In this way, by being yourself, you recover the person your partner was attracted to.

If you engage fully in the marriage therapy process, old resentments can recede and you can gain more respect for the value of your partner’s time and the value of your quality time together.

Research has shown that quality time is what people value most about a relationship.

Not only that, the daily routines and rituals we perform together in the kitchen, in the bedroom, in raising our children, and on our vacations, might often feel like hassles. But these are the very times we remember as being the most satisfying. This makes it critically important that we focus on making the most of our time together.

What Makes Me Different From Other Couples Therapists?

I have been married for 16 years and I appreciate the value of spending quality time with my partner. We have been through the turmoil of old arguments and tense silences when we wondered where we were going as a couple. By devoting quality time to ourselves and each other, we have rebuilt our relationship from the ground up.

Along with these invaluable personal experiences, the way I will work with you has emerged from over 18 years professional experience as a psychologist doing research on the psychology of time, and 9 years of working professionally with relationship issues involving children, youth, couples, and families.

I am a clinical psychologist registered with the College of Psychologists of British Columbia. I look forward to spending quality time with you to help you and your spouse move forward together towards gaining more satisfaction and fulfillment from your partnership.