Many couples get caught up in using words to communicate. Estimates vary, but sometimes even more than 90% of communication is non-verbal, including tone of voice, body position and posture, and other aspects of communication which convey interest, respect, or the lack thereof. Language is a severely limited way of communicating. The words we use to communicate have different meanings depending on upbringing and culture. They even depend on whether we can hear, see, or touch the person who is trying to communicate with us.
Many couples ask for love and respect but don’t show their partners what they mean by it. Consider how to show love and respect with your bodies. Our thoughts and feelings go far deeper than what we say. Turn towards one another to show interest. Raise an eyebrow or two to show curiosity, wonder, or awe. Try the empathy exercise.